What do I need to do to help my son with his alcohol problem?
As a parent, you know how difficult it is to watch your son suffer with an addiction. It doesn’t matter that your son is no longer a child – he’s still your child – no matter what. You never stop worrying about your children no matter how old they get and especially when they are having a rough time, you can feel their pain and you hurt for them, too. Many parents who are dealing with an addiction with their son or daughter can feel ultimately responsible for taking care of them. This sometimes leads to enabling their addiction because you want to do anything you can just to keep them in your sight; to make sure they are just alive. When it gets to be too much and you know the situation is very serious, you may ask, “What do I need to do to help my son with his alcohol problem?”
What you have to recognize first and foremost is that you can not “fix” your son’s addiction. It is something that he has to fix himself. Your son has to make the final decision about whether or not he will get sober, go to alcohol rehab, or attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. Here are some things you can to do help him, however.
1. Do not allow him to live in your home if he continues to drink. This is what will make you an enabler. You need to show him tough love and that you consider his actions very serious. If he is living in your home currently, set this rule immediately. If he needs help to quit drinking, offer to help him take that step into alcohol rehab.
2. Educate yourself about alcohol addiction. This may be one of the best things you can do for your son and for yourself. There are many resources available to you online and in your community to be able to understand more about your son’s alcohol problem. You may even want to go to Al-Anon meetings which are friends and family members of alcoholics.
3. Set boundaries. Tell your son that you do not want to be around him when he has been drinking. This is how you can take back control of your own situation by choosing not to watch your son or associate with him when he is drunk.
4. Plan an intervention. This is sometimes necessary to get a person to realize how much they are hurting themselves and their family through their actions. An intervention can often lead to an addict agreeing to go to alcohol treatment. This should be done with a professional interventionist.
Be firm in your decisions and provide support when your son needs you. The road will not be an easy one, but it will be worth it if you stand your ground and do whatever you can to help your son seek alcohol treatment.
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